09 Mar Avoiding Mistakes Novice Psychics Often Make
How to Avoid Making Beginner Mistakes as a Professional Psychic
For over thirty years, I did professional psychic and Mediumship readings. During that time I accumulated some vital tips and learned from a few disastrous mistakes. Now I’d like to pass these valuable insights along to others. In a way, I feel like I am passing the torch. A lot of what I have learned has come from years of doing readings for almost 3,000 people — by my last count.
The world is much different than when I started out in the early 1980’s and there is much more positive exposure available to the psychics of today. A lot of this positive exposure has occurred because of the Internet. Before the Internet, I had to rely on print advertising which was quite costly. Now we also have social media and YouTube right at our finger tips to help get our names out there, not only locally, but nationally as well. All these assets seem like the perfect solution for starting a business, but that’s only the tip of the iceberg.
Three Common Mistakes Psychic Newbies Make
- Not enough practice time going in. This shows in your readings.
- Not having a clear and concise method for conducting your readings.
- A tendency to tell clients what they want to hear even if it’s wrong information.
Let’s address these points in order:
1) Know your tools! Confidence comes from practice, practice, and more practice. Although I began doing readings with a Tarot or Oracle card book in one hand and reading the meanings to friends as I went along, I jokingly called them my victims, I found this unnerves people even friends. So if you are a novice or just learning cards, let your readee (the person getting the reading) know that you are still a student and be very clear about it. Also, ask them to relax and enjoy the reading. This will help create and better rapport and psychic connection with them.
2) It’s always important to have a concise idea of how you will be conducting a reading. Additionally, let your client know how you work and what to expect in the reading. Do you perhaps use Tarot or Oracle cards? Do you lay out rune stones? Or do you begin a reading with another method like psychometry? Do you gaze into client’s eyes while holding their hand and give a straight reading? (A “straight reading” is one in which no tools are implemented.) The point is to let the client know how you work before hand. Some people still strongly oppose the use of Tarot. Something like Angel cards might be a better choice for doing the reading in that case. KNOW YOUR CLIENT!
How I Give Readings
Dependent upon the reason my client come to see me, I always start off the reading by doing a little numerology on their birth data. This is accomplished through configuring the personal year they are in which only requires their day and month of birth. I never ask for the birth year because for this type of information, one only uses the current year. Also, this gives you information about what their Sun sign is and helps you understand them better. Consequently, I recommend that readers start with a bit of an assessment about someone’s sun sign and then move into their personal year events of what might happen in the coming year. If you don’t know how to configure sun signs by birth dates and their meanings, there are many great websites that give this information away freely. The same goes with personal year information.
Next, I will usually ask clients if they wish a general reading or go right into questions and answers. For example, a short-term reading for thirty minutes might be better served with immediately answering their pressing questions. For an hour-long reading, I will usually do a general overview of what I am picking up about them first and then go into questions and answers.
I actually teach clients how to ask questions. At times someone will sit down and start asking one question after another in rapid fire succession. You can manage this by gently asking them to relay one question at a time. Assure them you will answer all their questions. Also, request they be concise about what they want to know. Vaguely worded questions help no one and can bog down a reading. If you are not sure what they precisely want to know, ask them to rephrase the question. If a client gets huffy about this, let them know it will help the reading and allow you to give them clearer better answers.
Another important tip is to keep to the minutes the client has paid for. (I always receive payment up front.) Clients will often push you for more information and run over time. Don’t let them do this! If they want more time, gently suggest they come back in two weeks or a month for further information. This helps to allow events already talked about, to play out. If they strongly request more time, it’s better to have increments set out like 10 minutes, 15 minutes and so forth on your payment page. Nowadays, it’s easy for people to instantly access websites or make a payment with their phone. If you have another client immediately following, you need to explain this in a nice way. This also gives you credibility and infers that you have a full schedule of readings. Letting your clients know you are very busy is a good thing.
Summarize the Reading! I have my soft timer set for about 5 fives before the reading time is up. At this time, I finish what I am saying and then start summarizing the reading. This helps pull everything together for your client. At this time, if the client wants more reading time, explain how you will do this with the suggestions I gave you above.
3) It’s very easy to fall into the habit of sensing the answers a client wants to hear rather than what you are truly picking up. The reason for this is simple. In most cases, you want the client to book another reading later on. There is the fear that if you don’t do this, the client will move on or worse, give you a bad review.
The bottom line is, we can’t always provide the client with the exact answers they want to hear on that particular day. Perhaps a future reading may yield more information that is not available at the time. I mention this not to force a repeat visit, but to soften the blow of the client not hearing what they want to hear as an answer. Chances are they will go see someone else anyway until they get the answer they want. And, you haven’t compromised your code of ethics. However, it’s usually good to be truthful as you can but with diplomacy. Conveying news gently, with relevant spiritual insights added, goes a long way for individuals to accept their reading.
Being a professional psychic seems like great fun and easy to do. This is not always so. Yes, giving psychic readings can be a very fulfilling career, but one must work on their skills, keep meditating, work with their own guides, be professional in how they present themselves, as well as being very focused on the client’s well-being and reading at hand.
Carol’s Recipe for Avoiding Burnout
Whether I have one reading or several booked in a day, I usually start the day with prayer, meditation, clearing my energy field, and asking the higher realms to help me to give the best and most accurate readings possible. Then I prepare to meet my client(s). During the reading, I focus on my client and nothing else. This is their time that they paid for. For me, giving anything less is not right — or ethical. Thinking of your grocery list while giving a reading isn’t fair to your client and, it shows in your delivery.
After a reading, I usually clear my energy field again and let the reading go after sending it to the Light.
As you commence your psychic career, make sure you take care of your health and make sure you have scheduled enough free time for you to let go and relax. It’s always a good thing to have a hobby that has nothing to do with anything psychic. You must give your psychic senses and physical body a rest. I mentioned burn-out early on and believe me it can happen fairly quickly if your free time isn’t managed. And, a final word of caution. Don’t take your work home “from the office”. Let go of your client’s problems when the reading has ended. They are not yours to carry!
For those Getting Readings:
If you are looking for someone to do a reading, ask around or check out some psychic web sites. Usually you will get a vibe about a psychic advertised and if you think they might be right for you. Always book a short session the first time just in case you get a bad vibe after the reading starts or the psychic seems to be floundering. Always use discernment about any advice given until the psychic proves their integrity and accuracy. If the reading doesn’t feel right, or the psychic insists on you doing certain things or acting in ways that seem off, don’t do it! Think very carefully before taking any weird action suggested. And, if a psychic demands that you pay for more time in during reading, stop the reading right away. This means they don’t have integrity and are trying to squeeze more money out of you. Another ploy unethical psychics use is to strongly infer they have more information for you and you need to hear it. If the advice you came for has been covered, most likely this further bit of information carrot is a ploy. If a psychic takes a very long time doing a reading and you conveniently run out of time and, vital questions haven’t been answered, this is another ruse to keep the reading going. Don’t let a psychic manage you. Remember, you are in control of your own reading!