Do You Miss Someone You Loved that’s Passed at the Holidays?
The holiday season can be both a happy and a sad time for some–especially those who have lost a family member, significant other, or a dear friend. Then it can be quite painful. It might even cause thoughts of suicide for some. Might I offer you some comfort and let you know that your loved ones are with you even if you can’t see or sense them. And, there is a way which can help you through the holidays if this is a difficult time for you.
Remembering back to the year my mother died in June of 2001, I was dreading the approaching Christmas season. Mom had always made Christmas wonderful with her enthusiasm, sunny disposition, and warmth. We could always look forward to the approaching festivities with a house filled with bright Christmas decorations and, of course, great food. She was also an accomplished organist and from my earliest memories, we all stood around the massive Hammond organ and sang Christmas Carols on Christmas Eve. My brothers would play the guitar and my sister and I sang. It was really an old fashioned Christmas and those times were gone!
My father was not faring well at the time of my mother’s passing as he was suffering from dementia. However, it seemed he understood that mom was no longer with us. Yes, it was going to be a hard Christmas.
I stayed with Dad that Christmas and we drove to my brother’s beautiful home on Christmas Eve. We did the usual reminiscing about Christmases past and tried to have a good time. When it was time to leave, we passed my brother’s sunken living room where the big organ was residing (we couldn’t bear to sell it). All of a sudden I noticed, in the side chair by the organ, my mother sitting there. It only lasted for a second and I wasn’t sure if I really saw her or not. But in that split second I felt her loving energy as well. Then I knew. I chuckled to myself. It was mom. She wouldn’t miss Christmas with the family for anything! Even from the other side.
So, if you are missing a loved one this holiday season, or at any time, just know they are really with you. Our loved ones watch over us all during the year as well. Say hello or whatever you wish to tell them. They will hear you! I hope this little story helps those who are feeling grief, loss, or are feeling sad during these holidays.”