I’m Often Asked If Loved Ones Become Spirit Guides

A question I’m regularly asked is, “Do my loved ones become my Spirit Guides?”

The answer to this is both yes and no. Essentially, Spirit Guides are souls that have previously lived on earth. In spirit, they’ve attained a high level of spiritual understanding. Yet, they still retain an interest in those living on earth. But this still begs the question are they are our relatives? There’s controversy over this so read on to find out more about this question.

Angels Aren’t Our Spirit Guides

I’ve seen numerous instances on-line where individuals lump spirit guides with angels. In fact, they call angels, spirit guides. This isn’t correct. Although angels do watch over us and send vital messages, they aren’t technically spirit guides.

Souls that become our guides usually volunteer to do so. They undergo extensive training to fulfill this role. As there exists many categories of spirit guides, they will advise and help in particular life situations which best utilizes their expertise utilized while living on earth. However, these guides are not part of our ancestral lineage Specifically, they link with us to provide helpful guidance is specific areas of our lives.

Ancestral Guides

Although not part of our inner circle of Spirit Guides, many individuals do have ancestral guides that can be a very powerful source of help in their lives. Ancestral Guides, as a rule, can claim some sort of kinship with someone, such as having been their dear Aunt Daisy or even a great great grandparent. They may have been someone very close to the family and were considered “part of the family.”

On the whole, Ancestral Guides watch over the descendants of their lineage. Again, these are not Spirit Guides as such. However, these kinds of spirits will offer loving protection, mentorship, and assistance when needed. In rare cases, they may even attempt to warn someone of imminent harm.

My own mother is often with me. I see her sometimes just for a second.  And, I can hear her telling me not to worry or reminding me of life lessons she taught long ago.

Sometimes a spirit will appear standing close to a person in a reading or spirit circle but are not technically a Spirit Guide. They may have formed an attachment to that person — either in a past life or in the current lifetime. Thus, they want to stay close to them. Usually, these kinds of spirits are not negative attachments, but a spirit that just wants to watch over their friend.

If a individuals pray for a parent, or even a child that has passed, to become their Spirit Guide, this spirit, if they agree, will then become an Ancestral Guide and will stay close to their loved ones. This role will be suspended when the loved one they are guiding eventually passes into the spirit realm.

Why Loved Ones Don’t Technically Become Our Spirit Guides

There is one primary reason a deceased loved one does not become one of our inner band of guides. The simple truth is, they can’t be as objective as they need to be for offering unbiased assistance. A good example of this is a mother that strongly wanted their adult child to marry and have children, Perhaps this is not something the adult child wishes to do and is happy staying single. If they keep hearing or sensing a voice urging them to get married, it may be mom urging them to do so despite their own feelings about it. In this case, mom’s wishes are not in
the best interest of her child.

I have a sad but interesting family story about an apparent ancestor guide of mine who is not actually part of my ancestral line. Before my mother married my father, she dated a man named Johnny for four years. Johnny was a motorcycle policeman and looked very dashing in his uniform. As the story goes, he was madly in love with my mother. The problem was, Johnny was twelve years older than my mom. As she explained to me, she just couldn’t return the feelings. Mom finally broke it off with Johnny and met my father on a blind date three days later.

Years later, I don’t know how we got on the subject, but Mom mentioned that Johnny had never married. Apparently, he carried a torch for my mother until he died of old age. I still have his picture that I found in her private things after she died. I know she felt bad about Johnny.

Why Mention the Story of Johnny?

Okay, why mention Johnny? Well, it seems Johnny became one of my Ancestral Guides. How do I know this? The revelation came in a student spirit circle I was facilitating years ago. One student looked at me and stated that I had a special guide with me. She began describing Johnny to a tee right down to his looks, his 1930’s police uniform replete with jodhpurs, and sitting on an old fashioned motorcycle. When I thought about it later, I realized this was one way Johnny could stay close to the family of children that might have been his own had mom agreed to marry him. I still say hi to Johnny occasionally and thank him for being there for me.

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by Carol Nicholson, Ph.D., and Certified Psychic-Medium

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