…if you follow a few simple concepts!
Common Mistakes Beginner Mediums Make
Students who have taken my programs in Mediumship training will tell you that I emphasize one simple principle over and over; “Trust yourself and trust what you get!” In the beginning stages of their training, too often a developing medium will feel their contact with a spirit is either not significant enough to mention or suspect they are simply imagining the whole thing. Confidence levels are often low and there is a tendency to compare themselves with others in a way that is not conducive to confidence building.
If you love to watch the mediums on television, you may notice a few interesting things. Each one works a little differently. One medium might be demonstrating the way a spirit died by mentioning a pain somewhere in their body. Another might hear words spoken in their inner hearing, and yet another medium will physically see a spirit standing there and describe them to a T. Some will even demonstrate all of the above methods and more. Spirits have various ways of connecting with a medium and each medium has their own unique way of receiving spirit messages. I believe that no one method is better than another.
If you are in the early stages of your Mediumship development and you are frightened by the prospect that you can’t perform like some of the mediums you see on stage or in the media, please don’t handicap yourself by believing you can’t be as good of a medium because you fail to make spirit contact the way they do.
In my burgeoning years as a medium, I was constantly comparing myself to mediums I read about. I would try to emulate how they did it as best as I could. I tried so many different methods, I was beginning to lose track of the natural way I used to do it. Unlike the famous mediums in those days, I couldn’t seem to get an exact full name or the exact date a spirit passed. All this was quite upsetting and disappointing. In fact, I was becoming so frustrated, I almost gave up on the idea of becoming a medium altogether. What I did not realize then, was that I had my own unique set of abilities and ways of making spirit contact that were just as valid and effective as anyone else’s.
My teacher was a great trance medium trained in the spiritualist tradition. This is how it was done in those days. The medium would go into trance and produce voices and phenomena in the room as well as giving messages from spirit guides and deceased loved ones while seemingly asleep. Going into trance for me was frightening. I really resisted doing it and even though I hung in there and received my certification as a medium, I stopped doing it for a while until I could find a niche that was comfortable for me. I had learned much from her and loved her dearly, however, as I came to discover later on, I wasn’t encouraged to use my own unique set of gifts and abilities towards developing a style of my own.
One day, I sat down and thought about how spirits appeared to me before I began my formal development training. I remembered that I was able to get clear information about them without copying someone else’s style. What a revelation! I decided to write all of this down and examine my abilities and prior spirit encounters in-depth. I realized that I was very good at clairvoyance (seeing images of spirits or symbols in my inner vision), clairsentience, (feeling the energy of the spirit), and claircognizance, (a clear knowing of what the spirit was conveying to me). This bolstered my confidence several notches and provided a new foundation for me to build on.
Another part of my self-examination revealed that I was terrified that I could be WRONG about what I was receiving in terms of validation (giving significant facts about the spirit that were recognizable to someone else). I was constantly second guessing myself and I was stressing about my performance in front of other people rather than focusing on the spirit message I was receiving. This only served to block the flow of necessary for a good spirit linkage and I began to feel very stuck. Additionally, I was allowing myself to be intimidated by others who seemed far more advanced than I was. If I presented a spirit that came in and no one could relate to that spirit or claim them as a friend or relative, how would that look to others?
Eventually, with this new self- knowledge in hand, I began to focus on trusting the information I was receiving no matter how strange or bizarre it seemed. I allowed my different psychic senses to “speak” to me in a more relaxed way and offered up the information not caring if someone would claim the spirit as one of their loved ones or not. To my amazement, more and more people were identifying with the spirits that I brought in. Lesson learned.
I have taken other Mediumship classes from various individuals over the years. I take what I want and leave the rest. In my own classes, I allow each student to find their own niche and unique way of making spirit contact. I also encourage them to use the abilities they have, to develop them more fully, and to make room for any additional abilities that might emerge as they go through the process of what we Mediumship teachers call, unfoldment. To me, this is the ONLY true way to develop Mediumship.
If one is interested in becoming a medium, they should know that everyone has some Mediumship abilities to a degree. With training and encouragement, and discovering the unique intuitive gifts already present, there is no reason one cannot become a very accomplished medium. The secret is to develop in a way that best suits one’s personality, belief system, and compliments their innate abilities. The only requirements are, to trust one’s own special way of receiving spirit messages, to let go of ego, rely on the fact that the information received is correct, work from the heart, and live by the credo, ” For the highest and best good of all”. Only in this way can one begin to build confidence in their craft.
All mediums have days of good “hits” and experiences of miserable flops. It comes with the territory. It’s like the concept of biorhythms with up days and down days. The trick is to not get discouraged and to keep on going. The best of the best will tell you this is so. They’ve ALL had their good and “not so great” days. They have all gone through the same learning and unfoldment process. And, I believe they are better mediums because of it!
Things to remember when doing Mediumship:
- Work with joy.
- Work with respect for the spirits as well as the living.
- Come from the heart center.
- And trust what you get!
~Love and light to all,
Founder of Imagine Spirit